Nice Guys Don't Understand Communication

I was at a girl's house and she was listening to some youtube video blogs about the state of teaching. I think this was it... here It was a cool and very interesting.

Basically it talked about faculty living in fear of being fired and the result being that students suffer because they don't get insight, only top level instruction. They are not taught to truly think about things only to mimic other's decisions.

I watched a few others that were nowhere near as good. But one fellow (who rambled, often without any real point) did bring up an idea that I thought was quite good. He stated that the higher one goes in business the more one's job is to communicate with your superiors and disseminate that information down.

I thought... it resembles many computer programs that do not make money simply because they are difficult to use. It is unable to communicate our wants to the powerful central processor of the computer.

This is exactly what happens in the dating world. Nice Guys think they are communicating one thing but are in fact communicating something else entirely. But like programs who will continually try the same form of communication oblivious of the "error" men will stick to something that has worked once or twice and ignore the "errors" that keep popping up most of the time.

The basic code of the program needs to be rewritten. What this means is... the words and ideas he uses to communicate his wants to a woman need to be changed because as far as the processing unit (her instincts) are concerned the guy very often does NOT have "all access" privileges and is NOT likely to get them any time soon using that program.

Interesting that Nice Guys so often are unwilling to do any recoding to get their program in order so they can interface with women better.

Here we go again...

I've noticed two things when it comes to People. First, they are very afraid of being different. What I've come to realize isn't that people don't have the knowledge to accomplish some amazing things... I mean there are so many great systems out there that can catapult people to new heights. But there is a controlling, paralyzing grip on them that won't let go.

-----FEAR - TIPS FOR FLIRTING - RELATIONSHIPS-----

I'll be the first to admit that fear is a pretty strong emotion but what I don't understand is the full speed ahead support of something that obviously is NOT working. And yet, they stick to it hoping for the 1 in 100 moment that will balance the 99 failures.

When I was young I used to wonder if everything was a scam. If every system was nothing more than a trick to score $19.95 from some unsuspecting soul. But now that I know the difference. I'm pretty amazed by the whole thing. I am watching people wreck. In SLOW MOTION! And they have no interest in doing something different.

I mean, if they don't want help making their life fun and exciting from me, they should at least get it from someone else... right?

Found an article I wrote on the internet... on a nice site! That's pretty cool!!!

Well, checking backlinks... in the never ending battle and there on the yahoo checker... my article on a pr 3 (i think, maybe it was a 5!) Of course my page wasn't a 3 (or 5) but I'll take what I can get!

here it is...

If you get a chance, i'd appreciate you bookmarking it with your email account, or delicious account, twitter, whatever...

Thank you!

My Article

Did I say "yeah!?!"

The Mistake all nice guys make- The 3 Secrets all bad boys know!

The mistake all nice guys make - The 3 secrets all bad boys know! by DR Hitt

Here's the question you have to ask yourself... Are you willing to face the idea that 100% of the roadblock lies with how you've always done things?

Women are very open to being very attracted to you but you, as a guy, are not doing anything to spur the growth. Granted you've listed to yourself a bunch of stuff that you're doing to cause attraction but none of them are actually doing that.

You're quite attentive and go out of your way to do nice things for her. You also call and text her first thing in the morning. Quite simply, these destroy attraction they do NOT build it. Imagine a to-do list with 6 things on it, if you will. When numbers 1, 2, 3 and 4 are crossed off do you work on 5 or do you go back and re-work 2?

Of course you work on 5, those you have crossed off never enter your mind again. Well, friends, you've been crossed off her list, not consciously, she isn't to blame, it's evolution. You're already doing what she wants, she doesn't have to worry about you. But, if you're going to enjoy your time together you're going to need to change that.

Let's get you back on the list by putting you back on her mind. To do that you're going to have to start using my magical word of seduction. I don't want you to let your mind rebel against what I'm about to tell you, what you have been doing has obviously not been working.

Try something new.

You're going to have to overcome your fear of losing her, what you're doing now will drive any woman away for sure. I'm going to give you my magical word and then I'm going to give you some tips and examples of how to use it.

And now the word -- drum roll -- "NO".

Ta da!

Not convinced? It's the first word we really learn and has been the symbol of what stands between us and what we want all of our lives. It's what we must overcome to get what we want and you want to be overcome by her, trust me. You want her constantly thinking about how she can get what she wants from you. Now, I'm going to show you how the word NO builds attraction.

She says, "Let's go to Tom's Big Grill on Tuesday. I love that place." You put on your best devilish smile and say, "No." She'll very likely be surprised, perhaps even a little annoyed, after all the only thing you do for her is say Yes. Now you're going to create attraction in her and it's going to startle her a little bit. You go on, "I want to go to (anywhere) so go get your (black dress, favorite jeans, bowling shoes, etc.) on we're gonna have some real fun. - If you're in a store and she says you should buy shirt A, you say you like shirt B, and then you smile.

To clarify, it's never a confrontation - that lessons attraction - it's just you saying what you want to do just as an Alpha Male would. You don't ask her if she wants to go, just tell her when and where. You're not being possessive because she can choose not to go…and it shouldn't seem like a big deal if she doesn't want to go - go anyway. Tell her how much fun she missed. She'll want to go next time. - When you're walking down the sidewalk together - playfully bump her into obstacles or other people and if she actually runs into a person, talk to that person and blame her. She'll be shocked! And then she'll smile.

Here's two more very big attraction tools that you can utilize. The first is my "new faces & new places" rule of relationships. A man must take his woman to new places. That's where you come in. It doesn't matter where, but you must make it clear that YOU want to go and not that you're doing it for her.

You want to go but she can come and have fun if she wants. And the second is the word 'fun'. Everywhere you went without her you had a lot of fun. Talk about the people you saw, if they were dressed funny, said something funny, or walked funny. You're more fun than anything else she's got going but you still don't care if she hangs out with you.

And last, you must escalate kino but never talk about sex.

Kino is simply touching and you start by a small, quick touch to an arm or hand during conversation. Never let your touch linger, keep it quick. Build slowly. Touching is a mating ritual and will cause a woman to think about sex. Here's the kicker though, when they try to talk about it even if it's accusing you of thinking about it…tell them to keep their hands off you…you're not free. Slap, in a fun way, at them with napkins, newspapers or a sheet of paper and tell them to control themselves. You, from this point on will never, ever, ever bring up sex in any way and will always tease them when they do. This will cause them to wonder why you don't want to talk about it, especially when you're indicating, with your kino, that you are interested. Now you're on her mind.

These things are up to you, under your control. Start missing those phone calls and other things that you always thought showed her you care. She doesn't need them. You need them. To her they're just a weakness on your part but she's willing to participate for you. Her emotional circuitry thinks this, not her mind. You're making a change from the man she likes having around to the man she's desperately attracted to. And always, always do it with a smile. Even if you're not feeling the smile, it still works.

You are on your way. Keep checking the site for new information to calibrate your game. Remember, you're always having fun, but they can join you if they want.

Go to it.

Chat box action on Dating Sites

I was pretty disappointed to find out that some of the dating sites are going to stop using live chat functions... Hey!

I'm a master with this tool... pretty much if a girl agrees to open up a chat window with me... i get her number about 60% of the time. I can almost get her to ask me to contact her again although I occasionally lose women due to the assertive/jerk way I create my profile. Although that method loses me women here and there... it also up'ed my success rate significantly.

Man, I could get on there and just click open boxes on ten women and wait for one to answer and then go to work on her - flirting, attracting and then dating - at 3 - 6 days from that point. You can see at Tips for Flirting.

Now they're all gone. Back to email. It has a much higher success rate but it isn't nearly as fun as the chat function. In fact... email is just too easy. I don't make any of the mistakes that guys usually make...although they think they are helping themselves, they are in fact lowering the attraction of the women they are emailing... and they don't even know it!

I give a lot of free dating, flirting and seduction advice on my site so check it out if you want.